About me:

I am 47 years old, a kinky, queer, polyamorous, white, cis male. Left of liberal. I was born in Brooklyn in 1976 and I’ve lived in NYC all of my life except for three rough years out west. I am a dandy, switch, writer, author, producer, and designer.

I enjoy coffee, photography, cooking, reading, literary theory, postmodernism, maximalism, the occult, secret societies, the history of erotica, psychology, philosophy, typography, punk music, new wave music, rock music, early East Coast hip hop, lots of other music, music theory, Scrabble, Mah Jong.

I’ve been to about 35 states, Canada, China, Italy, England, the Czech Republic, Hungary, Germany, and Austria.

I am turned on by over-the-knee socks, thigh-high socks, glasses, pouting, banter, sarcasm, good communication skills, overtly kinky and polyamorous people, making out, giving people bruises, boobs.

My favorite authors are Anaïs Nin, William Gibson, Don DeLillo, Steven Millhauser, Mary Roach, Mary Gaitskill, Scarlett Thomas, Raymond Chandler, AM Homes, Daniel Handler, AS Byatt, Oscar Wilde, Hanif Kureishi, Sara Gran, and me.

My favorite bands are Elvis Costello, Joe Jackson, Gossip, Smashing Pumpkins, Blondie, Sleater-Kinney, Pavement, Spoon, The Cure, Pixies, Portishead, The Misfits, The Modern Lovers, The Smiths, The Replacements, Hüsker Dü, Sonic Youth, Ramones, Mazzy Star, The Specials, Radiohead, Pretenders, Jeff Buckley, etc.

My favorite movies are Bladerunner (both), Ghostbusters, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, The Breakfast Club, Jaws, Chinatown, Amadeus, Dangerous Liaisons, Brick, Spaceballs, Groundhog Day, The Usual Suspects, LA Confidential, all that Marvel stuff, The Silence of the Lambs, Eyes Wide Shut.

My favorite television shows are Hannibal, Sandman, Killing Eve, Stranger Things, Mindhunter, Black Mirror, various Star Treks, Jeopardy, Ted Lasso.

My favorite podcasts are Decoder Ring, The Ringerverse, How Did This Get Made?, Blank Check, MBMBaM/The Adventure Zone, Bandsplain, and 60 Songs That Explain the 90s.